You’ll have to pardon me, I sometimes tend to speak in broad generalizations.
I guarantee that you will never hear a woman at the bar proudly and affectionately tell her friends, “Hey sluts here’s a quick field report! Remember that hot guy with the blue eyes and long brown hair? Yeah, that [...]

 

 Disqualification [49:19m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download (928)

 

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Ever wonder where the depths of a simple technique like Disqualification can take you? This is your chance. At my last talk here in San Francisco I explore just how far Disqualification can be take you. I very nearly exahust my understanding of this technique as well as expand it further than it has ever [...]

Statements of appreciation and compliments feel really good. It is a powerful thing when someone appreciates you. I immediately like someone if they appreciate who I am genuinely. I know, I have quite the big ego like that However, there is a whole spectrum of quality when it comes to compliments.
Here is [...]

“I like your dress!”
“Thanks, I like your shirt”
Why do we feel the need to give a compliment the moment we get one? Perhaps it is because it reminds us we should have been doing it all along and we don’t want to seem stingy with our praise. The issue I have with it is that [...]

I have to admit I am a pretty selfish self-centered guy. My excuse is I grew up an only child. Even my Mom teases me about how “confident” I can be sometimes. The fact is that sometimes my assertiveness doesn’t leave room for other people to feel comfortable with their thoughts, ideas, and opinions.
I’ve [...]