A lot of people have been asking me to update them on my dating life. I wish there was more to report, but I have definitely had a new perspective on dating since I broke up with my ex this summer. I used to be very happy dating a few women casually at a time but I am starting to not enjoy that as much anymore. Also I am doing a strong re-focus on my life. A long period of not pursuing new ideas and projects with Charisma Arts left me a bit apathetic. Now I am focusing again inward and re-evaluating how I want my life to be. I have always been a strong proponent of making life about drive and passion. That is at the core of who I am and is what I find drives my success with women and the charisma I project. The happier and more content I am the more confident I am and confidence is at the core of charisma.
Despite an inward look into myself I have been exploring and experimenting with online dating as a learning experience. A post will soon be coming on my techniques and experiences. One girl I met online is keeping my attention but is giving me a lot to think about. I don’t think I have ever progressed so slow, yet I feel I am taking the right track with her. The title of her profile was “Friends First?” so I already knew there was likely something holding her back a bit. On our first date I found out she was separated from her husband of 8 years. She was a little scared of my reaction to that but honestly I don’t think of that as anything to worry about in the slightest. However one thing I do realize is that this girl has absolutely zero dating experience. She is pretty shy when it comes to dating and doesn’t drink nor do the bar/club scene. In fact to give you a better picture of the situation after our first date (set up over email), when I asked for her number she was extremely reluctant to give it to me.
I am enjoying dating her though. She has what I look for in a woman, an adventurous side, intelligent, and passionate about life. I think in this case moving slowly is the best option, I’m definitely not worried about her losing interest due to me escalating too slowly as happens with women with more dating experience. Not to mention it is fun dating someone where the normal roadmap doesn’t really apply. I am enjoying having the experience not “going forward on schedule”.
One thing that occurred to me last night as I was talking about re-centering my own life now is I want to create a 30 day “Do something that scares you everyday!” action plan. I am going to try to create a 30day plan that anyone anywhere can do that will have something scary to try each day. I’m not sure it will work for everyone as people are scared of different things but I want to create something nonetheless. So please post your ideas in the comments section. For example one thing I want to include that is from The Four Hour Work Week. Go to a public place and lay down on the floor on your back for thirty seconds. Then get up and continue about your business. Don’t explain unless you have to, and say it’s a social experiment. So what ideas do you have? If I get this made I’ll make it as a 30 day subscription course.
November 3rd, 2008 at 11:27 pm
A lot of things scare me, like talking to a stranger after working with a comp whole day.
Talking to a bitter person who obviously have a close body language scares me.
I used to be afraid of using the opener
“Hi, I’m spiderman” but not anymore. =)
I’ll try that laying on the floor for 30 seconds thing, somewhere away from work place.
November 4th, 2008 at 1:55 am
I’d love to read more about your online dating experiences. I have a few girls I chat with regularly, which I met on a dating site. But I have some troubles escalating, because it’s so hard to convey feelings. And things are easily misinterpreted.
Also.. looking forward to the 30day challenge!