Comments on: Beware the Secret Technique! http://www.charismatips.com/beware-the-secret-technique/ From Charisma Coaching Fri, 27 Jan 2012 17:36:52 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Roshigary http://www.charismatips.com/beware-the-secret-technique/comment-page-1/#comment-423 Roshigary Mon, 05 Feb 2007 00:16:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=91#comment-423 What the saying meant was that if you recognized the Buddha as anyone outside yourself, then kill that idea. Ergo, if you believe that the way lies in pickup lines, routines, etc., one has to believe that true ability lies within, and kill the idea that anything lies without. <br /><br />The buddha (or someone else) gave the example of using a raft to cross the river and then carrying the raft on one's back, instead of leaving it by the river. I think that's the story you want. I guess portaledging wasn't in vogue back then. <br /><br />Keep up the good work! What the saying meant was that if you recognized the Buddha as anyone outside yourself, then kill that idea. Ergo, if you believe that the way lies in pickup lines, routines, etc., one has to believe that true ability lies within, and kill the idea that anything lies without.

The buddha (or someone else) gave the example of using a raft to cross the river and then carrying the raft on one’s back, instead of leaving it by the river. I think that’s the story you want. I guess portaledging wasn’t in vogue back then.

Keep up the good work!

]]> By: FrogBoiler http://www.charismatips.com/beware-the-secret-technique/comment-page-1/#comment-424 FrogBoiler Tue, 31 Oct 2006 03:01:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=91#comment-424 So true. I know one of the biggest things that bothered us was people that were just learning the method and turning around to use it on us-- Until we were able to take a step back and realize that, for the most part, they really were just trying to establish genuine connection and friendship with the only tools they'd learned so far. Eventually anyone that goes with the juggler method long enough realizes that the principles behind it are essentially true-- you will never need to "grow out of" learning to relate to someone conversationally, or express your interests or personality in an honest and direct fashion. But everyone will find their own way of accomplishing these tasks. You'll find you're still relating, rewarding, etc, but without having to say "wow I think it's sexy that you xxx, I yyy." It's easier to be a natural than it is to be a robot, but it's harder to go from socially awkward to natural than it is to crutch yourself with a little robotics for a while. So true. I know one of the biggest things that bothered us was people that were just learning the method and turning around to use it on us– Until we were able to take a step back and realize that, for the most part, they really were just trying to establish genuine connection and friendship with the only tools they’d learned so far. Eventually anyone that goes with the juggler method long enough realizes that the principles behind it are essentially true– you will never need to “grow out of” learning to relate to someone conversationally, or express your interests or personality in an honest and direct fashion. But everyone will find their own way of accomplishing these tasks. You’ll find you’re still relating, rewarding, etc, but without having to say “wow I think it’s sexy that you xxx, I yyy.” It’s easier to be a natural than it is to be a robot, but it’s harder to go from socially awkward to natural than it is to crutch yourself with a little robotics for a while.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.charismatips.com/beware-the-secret-technique/comment-page-1/#comment-425 Anonymous Sat, 28 Oct 2006 02:18:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=91#comment-425 Thanks Suyoko! I appreciate your praise, maybe she flaked out and I never heard from her for other reasons.<BR/><BR/>I do think I need to practice the agreement step more fully. "I know what you mean" isn't really very strong agreement. Maybe something like<BR/><BR/>"I agree-it's such a pain when people are bullheaded and won't even listen to your thoughts and let you feel understood! I mean, take me, I don't always believe I'm right....I just know it for a fact!"<BR/><BR/> - Jason_LA Thanks Suyoko! I appreciate your praise, maybe she flaked out and I never heard from her for other reasons.

I do think I need to practice the agreement step more fully. “I know what you mean” isn’t really very strong agreement. Maybe something like

“I agree-it’s such a pain when people are bullheaded and won’t even listen to your thoughts and let you feel understood! I mean, take me, I don’t always believe I’m right….I just know it for a fact!”

– Jason_LA

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.charismatips.com/beware-the-secret-technique/comment-page-1/#comment-426 Anonymous Tue, 24 Oct 2006 20:13:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=91#comment-426 You don't need her laughter Jason_LA, that's the whole point of disqualification, letting her know you don't need her approval. You did just fine.<BR/><BR/>All the best!<BR/><BR/>Suyoko from Osaka You don’t need her laughter Jason_LA, that’s the whole point of disqualification, letting her know you don’t need her approval. You did just fine.

All the best!

Suyoko from Osaka

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.charismatips.com/beware-the-secret-technique/comment-page-1/#comment-427 Anonymous Tue, 24 Oct 2006 16:46:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=91#comment-427 I know what you mean, it's not good to be a technique robot. I do think it's a phase we all go through as we try new learnings. Me, I'm still at the "robotic" stage of learning Disqualification and throwing down sexual barriers and expressing desire behind them. I remember the same phase with cocky and funny, but now that's pretty darn natural by now! Hell, it took me a week to be able say the word Sexy as an SOI and have seem half-natural!<BR/><BR/>The other night I picked up this girl who almost married an Italian guy. She was qualifying: "Italian men! Their very strong willed, and they always are convinced that they are right!"<BR/><BR/>Me: "I know what you mean. But honestly I usually think I'm right too!" <BR/><BR/>No laughter from her on that one. But maybe it's because my vibe was one of "I have to shoot this down" rather than chuckling at her dorkishness.<BR/><BR/> - Jason_LA I know what you mean, it’s not good to be a technique robot. I do think it’s a phase we all go through as we try new learnings. Me, I’m still at the “robotic” stage of learning Disqualification and throwing down sexual barriers and expressing desire behind them. I remember the same phase with cocky and funny, but now that’s pretty darn natural by now! Hell, it took me a week to be able say the word Sexy as an SOI and have seem half-natural!

The other night I picked up this girl who almost married an Italian guy. She was qualifying: “Italian men! Their very strong willed, and they always are convinced that they are right!”

Me: “I know what you mean. But honestly I usually think I’m right too!”

No laughter from her on that one. But maybe it’s because my vibe was one of “I have to shoot this down” rather than chuckling at her dorkishness.

– Jason_LA

]]> By: mybirthdaypony http://www.charismatips.com/beware-the-secret-technique/comment-page-1/#comment-428 mybirthdaypony Wed, 18 Oct 2006 01:11:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=91#comment-428 my blog is so sweet that it is linked TWICE!! woot woot. my blog is so sweet that it is linked TWICE!! woot woot.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.charismatips.com/beware-the-secret-technique/comment-page-1/#comment-429 Anonymous Tue, 17 Oct 2006 19:56:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=91#comment-429 Spoken like a man who can't make a monkey fly out of his ass. Spoken like a man who can’t make a monkey fly out of his ass.

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