Comments on: Change in SOI (Statement of Intent)

By: Charisma Tips

Charisma Tips — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 19:03:11 +0000

[...] showing your sexual interest, then lay it on the line and tell her your agenda in the form of an SOI or Sexual Barrier. This makes your agenda no longer hidden, and also not so hard to get to. We have [...]

By: El Mandala

El Mandala — Tue, 24 Apr 2007 19:56:40 +0000

Great post. I love it.

Bests,

El Mandala.
Bs. As. Argentina.

By: Vibe

Vibe — Fri, 06 Apr 2007 18:31:50 +0000

I love the SOIs So far the best SOIs I’ve throw out are SOIs where I find what girls really value (it’s different for every girl). Then show my interested based on that. It’s like throwing gasoline into the fire. Very Powerful!

By: baum

baum — Mon, 02 Apr 2007 21:36:23 +0000

“I think it’s really sexy that you aren’t wearing any panties.”
i think the above statement is better used later, after the SOI.

By: Sandman

Sandman — Mon, 02 Apr 2007 16:21:40 +0000

I love the new version better. It’s more upfront and sounds more natural. I’m in with Roulette though, I rarely stick to pre-formatted sentences, unless I wanna test them out. Linked to your blog, btw, hope that’s ok.

By: greg

greg — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 20:18:47 +0000

how about this?

“I think it’s really sexy that you aren’t wearing any panties.”

By: D

Sat, 31 Mar 2007 22:10:15 +0000

a girl once called me hot… then her friend dragged her off to the bathroom away from me.

By: Roulette

Roulette — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 13:34:24 +0000

Interesting. I never really followed the formate anyway. I just kinf of formulate an SOI on the spot. Some are good, some not so good. But I’m for sure liking the more direct line. The more direct the better in my opinion.

http://www.DirectNaturalGame.com

By: SocialHitchHiker

SocialHitchHiker — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 04:20:07 +0000

Hmm looks left justified to me. I’ll check it out.

As for ljbf, wouldn’t you rather know sooner rather than later?

By: Tom

Tom — Mon, 26 Mar 2007 19:41:59 +0000

I think this makes tons of sense. I can really see using this at the coffee shops and restaurants I go regularly. Telling that cute barista “Great talking with you, I’m going to look forward to chatting with you next time I come in/hearing about your trip to Zimbabwe next time I see you” could be a great way reassure her that I don’t expect more than a friendly face and good conversation when I come in. (I don’t want to ruin these places by hitting on the staff…customers are fair game!)

btw, Dan, I find the way the text is centered a little harder to read than it would be if it were left-justified.

Tom

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 26 Mar 2007 13:00:49 +0000

Oh Jesus, your instructing women to LJBF! Oh fucking Jesus.

By: kaizen

kaizen — Sat, 24 Mar 2007 18:57:07 +0000

Hi Dan!

I like the new, more direct SOI. To me, the “Not only are you sexy but also ____.” SOI just seemed a little contrived and I could never really seeing myself saying that. The new version seems more natural.

-Kaizen

By: SocialHitchHiker

SocialHitchHiker — Sat, 24 Mar 2007 17:21:06 +0000

Ex.

Her: I really enjoy my painting, it is a way i can really express myself.
You: I think that is really sexy that you are so creative
You: What do you paint?

By: Pieter

Pieter — Sat, 24 Mar 2007 10:30:08 +0000

Hey Dan,

The problem i have “following up on the SOI’ is that it seems so fabricated to suddely say after you told your intent “so, what good books did you read in the past month?” or something in these lines. I know i shouldn’t pause, but just blurting something after it is also kind of lame in my experience. What do you recommmend saying following up the SOI?

Thanks a lot, you da man,

Pieter