Ok ladies it is time you took some advice on dating from a man. Why? Well how has the advice from other women been working out? Who better to tell you all about what works when dating men than a guy who hears from hundreds of guys how their dates are going and what about women keeps them interested. I teach men how to date for a living. I have seen a LOT! I work with guys every weekend and have helped guys with all sorts of dating goals and I have seen the women who have captured their hearts and know why.
On this blog you can see I have had a long history of writing articles for guys, now it is your turn. Recently I held a focus group and brought three women through my methods and learned a lot from them as well. I have to say I am amazed at their success. Whether they see all the changes or not, I see that they are stronger and more confident in the world of dating and are on the right path to meeting the kind of guys they want.
My first tip is start dating like a guy! Yes that means date more than one guy at a time. Resist that urge to bond with the first decent guy you meet. I know it is difficult, in fact you have severe hormonal response to overcome when doing so. However if what you want is to meet quality guys who will treat you right, with respect, and admiration, settling is not the answer.
Guys like a chase; we like a challenge. However, that is not the only reason to date more than one person at a time. Let’s look at the advantages of always dating a couple people at a time.
Reason 1) Creates the air of un-attainability.
How many times have you heard that if a guy gets to sleep with you too quickly he won’t want to date you? In fact that isn’t quite true. It is in fact that women often surrender their choice and give in when they end up sleeping with a guy. I am not saying you have to sleep with lots of guys at once but even if one of the guys you are dating you end up sleeping with, continuing to date after that also says to him he doesn’t have you yet. Also a guy who knows you are dating other guys sees you more of a challenge. As long as you let him know he is still in the running he will feel a bit competitive and work for your affection.
Reason 2) Reminds you that you are attractive and desirable.
So many women date one guy at a time and after breaking up feel alone and undesirable. If you are dating more than one guy at a time, even some that you aren’t necessarily into, it reminds you very strongly that there are an abundance of men out there who want to date you and you have choice!
Reason 3) Makes it easier to not fall into habits that aren’t good for you.
We all find that comfort of being with our Ex’s very desirable. Also having a relationship feels better than having none. This keeps us with people who aren’t good for our confidence or our lives. When you date other people it always gives you an excuse not to spend time with people who shouldn’t be in your life anymore. When we have more choices it is easier to choose the choices that serve us best.
There are a lot of great reasons to date more than one person at a time. I’m not saying you have to sleep with any of them or should sleep with more than one guy, however just dating a few guys at once really announces to the world and reaffirms it to you that you have choice, are desirable, and have an abundance of men that want to be with you. Dating one guy at a time is fine, but if the whole goal is to find a really special person you want to be with dating more than one person at a time is a very efficient way to do it. Remember dating is sorting, the faster you sort through the people don’t want the sooner you will find the guy who will really make you happy
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