hahaha, what the heck happened to the podcast? the voices are funny!

Referring to the girl that asked the question about how to get the guy to lead, I’d like to add something to what Dan had said (which was giving him options).

I find that people feel comfortable doing certain things (that they otherwise feel uncomfortable doing), when I let them know that I like it.

So if a girl does something small that interests me, I’ll point it out, “I really like how you take the initiative on where we’re going to eat tonight. Do that more.”

Be straight about it, I feel the reason people don’t take initiative in things isn’t because they are apathetic, but because they’re scared to disappoint the other person with a bad choice:

“She may not WANT to go to McDonalds OR Taco Bell, I’ll just let her decide.”

So girls, LET THEM KNOW you LIKE that they take an initiative.

If that doesn’t work, take Dan’s suggestion of realizing that he’s just not for you.

Dan, first let me thank you for the great site and tips. You’re approach is genuine and practical which has helped me a ton!

One question, in the QA section of your class presentation you mention a handout with questions in it. Can you post that to your site? I’d appreciate taking a look at that and answering those questions for myself.

I like your method and methology. I would like to hear more. I like the open hand shake and the open body language approach, I’m going to try that today. Thanks for the tips. John K.