If i want a girl as a friend i go through all the steps and instead of a “Sexy” soi i tell her “I love how _____ you are, we are gonna be such good friends.” Then i try to set up a friendship date (her coming out with my other friends.

I still relate and reward.

And can you explain more about this: “Why not LJBF some of the girls you meet that you aren’t interested in.”

I sometimes meet women I’m not interested in romantically and trade contact information. When I e-mail them later, they often don’t respond–and I think it’s because I haven’t SOI’d or escalated, so they’re confused about what my intentions are. If you meet a woman in a public place but just want to be friends, what do you say to her to communicate that in a way that won’t make her flake? And if your intention is to just be friends, should you still be relating and rewarding, or can you just have a regular conversation? (In other words, won’t rewarding send the wrong message?)

Rosh, I just told her to write and i kept out of the process. She is very interested in what i do and so happens to know much of the method. She can’t help see that interaction through that lens now that it has been so many months ago. Hopfully you still got something out of it. If not there are more blogs on the way that hopefully you will enjoy more.

Jc, You never know. I make sure i’ve been doing some sensual kino like caressing her fingers while we talk and have done a SOI and have been flirting a bit. Then I take a risk. If you think you might be able to kiss her you likely could have a half hour ago and she’s wondering why you haven’t kissed her yet.

As for the supplication stuff. I don’t do anything i wouldn’t do for a friend. If i feel like it might not be an equal exchange i verbally make it one and still do what is asked of me (like the holding stuff). With the cigs i was doing it as much for me as i was for her. Just imagine if your close guy friend asked you to do something. If you would say no to him, then say no to her. If she asks you to do something go ahead and do it but say something like “ok, but you owe me a backrub tonight.” Big topic though. Check out http://socialhitchhiker.b...2006/09/supplication.html for more info

How to get LJBF’d huh? Well i would do it the other way around. Why not LJBF some of the girls you meet that you aren’t interested in. You are talking to girls other than your “targets” right? That is how I make more friends. As for my social networking? I prolly need to get my ass out of the ocean and focus more time on socializing and less on surfing and rock climbing. Nah, the social circle will get larger, just like the waves

Surfer keep an eye out for a future blog on that.

Whew.. I’m sure i could go into a lot more depth on all of those subjects. Hopefully that will tide you over till i do.

Thanks for reading and commenting everyone!

I think it would have been more effective if the event took place fully from her perspective; her words, her feelings, positive and negative, as well as she could remember them.

If you take the S.F. CA podcast where Wayne and Johnny interviewed the girls for their opinions, you’ll hear that they sound much more natural and unscripted.

I mention this only because the quality of your writing is consistently high, and this seems like an inconsistent entry.

Having said that, I read through all of your posts both here and on the CA website and enjoy the quality of content. Keep up the good work!

How do you know when its right for the kiss? After the first SOI?

Dan, how come you refuse to hold her stuff earlier but then fetch a cigarette for her? I’m not being picky, I want to know how you decide which requests to furfil – and which requests will tool you.

It’s a little the same here, but inevitable I think, if a PU instructor gets to know a girl. Nevertheless it was long, and there was some non-method biased stuff so thanks, in fact your blog is on a high at the moment.

A while ago you wrote a post on making friends, since then you’ve moved to a new city, do you have anything to add to that?

Also: I have been out with many women, and apart from the first time, never tried to escalate, so they lose interest, however I never get LJBFed. I want to be LJBF. It would benefit me and male friends to have a more balanced social circle. So if she conclusively rejects your advances how do you get LJBFed so she has some intention of actually really seeing you socially?

- R

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http://socialhitchhiker.b...om/2006/12/listening.html

By the way, what is vacuuming?

-Matt Savage