From The Movie Swingers
Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
Trent: A day.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it’s like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two’s enough not to look anxious.
Trent: Yeah, two’s enough not to look anxious. But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you…
Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who’s ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.
The classic dilemma, how long do I wait before I call a girl. The two day rule became famous from The Movie Swingers. You donâ€™t want to come off looking too anxious and needy and it seems calling later rather than sooner will do that.
One of the biggest complaints my female clients voice is about guys who wait too long to call. This is an example of what goes through their heads:
Night of: He was really cool; I liked him. I really hope he calls.
Next Day: It would be really fun to go out with him, hopefully he calls today or tomorrow
Second Day: Well he still hasnâ€™t called, I really hope he is not the kind of guy who tries to wait two or three days so he wonâ€™t seem needy. Iâ€™ll still go out with him if he calls but this game is pretty lame.
Third Day: What an idiot, I canâ€™t believe he didnâ€™t call me. If he calls I might even just ignore it.
Fourth Day: What an ass, I hope I never run into him again.
If she likes you she wants to hear from you; call her the next day. If I am absolutely too busy to call the next day I usually send a text to say â€œIt was cool meeting you last night, This weekend is a bit crazy Iâ€™ll give you a call on Sunday.â€ By doing that you short-circuit the thought process she goes through from Yay to Nay.
It is amazing to me how much my feelings for a woman changes throughout the week depending on how much or little we talk. I recently met a woman on Friday and after spending the night with her and much of the day Saturday, her five texts in a row on Sunday made me feel like I needed a bit more distance. As the week went on I think she sensed something and she only texted me twice during the week and didnâ€™t return one of my calls. By the end of the week I was wondering if I screwed up and she didnâ€™t like me anymore and was really hoping to see her or talk to her soon. A small text from her at this point had me jumping to call her and make plans. The same happens for women.
My simple rule is donâ€™t send more than two unanswered texts in a day. If I donâ€™t get a response I wait one full day with no contact and then try another text or phone call. If she enjoys having a text conversation with you go ahead and have fun with it. I just never send more than two texts in a day that she hasnâ€™t replied to, and generally just send one.
You donâ€™t have to play games with phone calls and texting; just donâ€™t go overboard. Call if you want to call, text if you want to text. The only time you will come off needy is if you keep calling or texting if she hasnâ€™t responded.
For more discussion from getting the number to the next step check out: How Many Times Should I Call a Girl?