Comments on: Notes on Texting

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 22:48:00 +0000

Exactly Spot on. send me a text that night, lets me know you like me. Tell me when you’re gonna’ call and I know what to expect. Call when you say you will and I’ll go on a date. Ask me for a date over text and I’ll delete your contact info. Don’t think twice, Its alright. Also, couldn’t be more true what you say about tone. This is a problem in email also there is no tone and miscommunications are so easy. I would skip too much teasing although clever one liners are always welcome. Make me laugh when I read your text and I’ll even feel bad about not texting you back.
~K

By: ch0n60

ch0n60 — Tue, 23 Jan 2007 00:45:00 +0000

Great piece. Text messaging is great. Why limit your modes of communication?

By: SocialHitchHiker

SocialHitchHiker — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 19:02:00 +0000

I agree, working out details is fine, as long as she has already made the commitment to come.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 14:09:00 +0000

Actually I always use text to work out details of dates. Cos' they've agreed to the acvtivity and day at the meeting, the details can be communicated with text, if you phone and they don't answer, you can't tell if they're flaking, no answer to a text means they are and you can make contingenices.

And yes you can spell check text messages, get a £5 usb phone-computer cable of ebay.

Love
Goose.

By: Matt

Matt — Sat, 13 Jan 2007 23:00:00 +0000

"I've found that women will often banter FAR more sexually in text than they will in person. There is something about the privacy of their own keypad where they will go wild."

This is great stuff. An interesting counter position I read on this topic is that after a woman goes nuts with sexual banter in text, but before a day2 has transpired, she's more likely to flake on the day2.

Reason: Too much textual sex banter gets her perceiving that your expectation for sex is high for the day2. Or a shorter way of stating it: She's teased you over text before the day2, now she has to live up to it.

Again, this is only something I've read. I can't back it up with field data because I currently don't text. I'm too slow with a phone. It sounds like many of you have the opposite experience with text and it works well for you.

Rock on!

By: SocialHitchHiker

SocialHitchHiker — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 04:20:00 +0000

I do a lot of sexual flirting over text. Too much to write in a comment. It will be on my list for a future blog.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 10 Jan 2007 16:32:00 +0000

Well, I’d love to hear what Dan has to say about the above question, but I’ve found that women will often banter FAR more sexually in text than they will in person. There is something about the privacy of their own keypad where they will go wild.

And it seems to set up this great, private sexual conspiracy between you that creates incredible undertones when you next see her.

By: Matt

Matt — Tue, 09 Jan 2007 23:26:00 +0000

I never text. I do well without it. But you point out some great ways to do it right. I may try it.

I especially like the part about not texting shorthand. I also do well never putting smily faces and such in email messages. No exclamation points, or 'LOL' symbols either for me.

I've had a couple women use text to cancel last minute last year. But over all enjoyed a nice open to day2 ratio.

I'm seeing someone I'm totally into at the moment...

By: El Profesor Romantico

El Profesor Romantico — Tue, 09 Jan 2007 02:27:00 +0000

The night email establishing a time to call is pure gold! It is such a smooth transition toward a day two without flakes. Thanks!

I’m curious what your thoughts are on flirting/building sexual tension via text?

By: SocialHitchHiker

SocialHitchHiker — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 20:40:00 +0000

All i have to say is i wish they had a spellchecker on texts but i try my best not to t4alk lik3 thi5 u no? The fact that I spell words out and try to use punctuation says something about me. I can’t tell you how often i’ve heard girls laugh at guys trying to text like the key pad on their cell phone is missing letters. I have also heard them make fun of guys spelling.

The way we communicate says what kind of people we are.

Now i have to get back to my remedial grammer class and brush up

By: Chad

Chad — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 19:17:00 +0000

Do you always use proper English? or just on the first message?

(Thank you. I've been wanting to see an article on using text messages.)

Chad

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 04:21:00 +0000

I think the real power of texting lies in it’s ability to keep her thinking of you, without being to intrusive. It’s safe. I’ve also had some really good moments using push pulls with text that really worked. I think texting is a great tool few PUA’s address.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 06 Jan 2007 12:50:00 +0000

Cool post. It’s one of those times when you put in words a “social dynamic” that I was experiencing — the same feeling I got when I’ve read whoever statement it was about people going to noisy pubs knowingly sacrificing communication for meeting new people.

Yeah, I was also sort-of expecting you to comment more on the “discreetly in public” thing, how it allows you to flirt dropping sexual innuendos while in public. Or maybe it’s just a sign that I’m ashamed of what I am and what I do if I’m more outgoing while in privacy.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 06 Jan 2007 00:56:00 +0000

You forgot to say how much important is some sexual messaging.