Ah in the failed attempt at this myself in my blog posts, I have attempted to reverse isolate you the reader. It has been a while since my last post and for that I sincerely apologize. I write often in spurts, many articles at once posted over time and for a while then none at all. Inspiration is a hard muse to seduce. This last stretch of time has been an exercise in distraction. Alas I am back and will be posting a few articles alongside this one. I hope you have enjoyed reading the archives in the meantime.
On to the idea of reverse isolation, we have had a long-standing idea in our heads of confrontation with women and the path to their hearts or at least our bedrooms. There are even warlike terms such as target, obstacle, and even derisive terms for her friends like cock-block. It is time to see this in an inclusive journey. Women have to know what their friends think about you; what do you think those bathroom trips are really for? We believe the only way to get a woman to like us is to get her alone for a bit; hence the idea of isolating her. This is also a bit of a confrontational approach.
When I tell my clients don’t bother isolating her other than having a one on one conversation, even with her standing in a group (as opposed to a group conversation), they’re confused. I then tell them, she will isolate you. Women want to hook up and meet cool guys, and their friends want that for them even more. Women are also masters of reading body language. They can see from across the bar whether she is enjoying the conversation with you or not. Her friends will naturally make an excuse to leave you two alone. If they are not sure about it they will invite her and she will remain if she likes you. As long as you have introduced yourself to her friends and had a nice warm vibe, you’ll pass. Besides if this takes a while don’t let it deter you. It shows even more confidence if you are flirting with her right in front of her friends, introducing a SOI and even sexual barriers is a good thing. This will even encourage her friends to leave you alone together. Not trying to isolate gives her friends a chance to see how you two are getting along and without anything other than a warm introduction, they begin to get to know you simply because they see you interacting.
Then it happens before you know it. You are standing there with her friends a distance away or even nowhere to be seen. Now she will feel comfortable being a bit flirtier back with you. Take that opportunity to escalate further and enjoy the next step in the interaction.
Tags: Flirt
