Just a quick pet peeve for today. I love texting but nothing gets me more annoyed when people text me “How are you?” It drives me nuts. What are they expecting when they text this? Am I supposed to write a book on everything going on in my life in a tiny little text? Also if i write back “Good”. Is that a decent answer? I am stuck. Most of the time I ignore the text completely.
I recently talked to a woman about texting and dating and she hated getting texts that don’t ask for a specific response. My texting advice has always been make a statement like: “Just had an amazing salsa class, although if i do another spin I’m gonna fall over.” Simple with a bit of personality and energy. She might have felt like “Am I supposed to respond to this?”. Personally I am ok with that. I am not asking her to respond, I am just sharing a bit. If she does cool, and it will lead to a text conversation for a bit. It also puts me in her head if we haven’t talked and we don’t have time for a phone call. If she actually does think too much about whether she should respond or not then at least she is thinking about me 
Mainly though i use these type of statements when I am trying to keep in touch with more than one person or am between the time i called them the first time and waiting for them to get back to me. If I ask a question over text and she hasn’t even called me back yet, it can come off needy. A statement works better in that case.
So besides statements I think certain questions are OK if at least it is not your first couple texts ever to them. Specifically this is where a closed ended question works well. “Did you end up making it to your Yoga class on time?” “Enjoy your new book?” “Did you ace your test?”
Normally I hate closed ended questions. They kill conversation. However on text they are great; I am not asking them to write a book of a response, just a simple yes or no. The trick is that no one will just write “yes or no”, they will go into a small bit of detail, taking the conversation from there is easy. People don’t answer texts when there is too much needed in return, much like my hated “how are you?” A simple closed ended question asks very little in response so people will usually respond quicker to them.
