Comments on: The art of NOT qualifying http://www.charismatips.com/the-art-of-not-qualifying/ From Charisma Coaching Fri, 27 Jan 2012 17:36:52 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Derek L aka Positive http://www.charismatips.com/the-art-of-not-qualifying/comment-page-1/#comment-497 Derek L aka Positive Wed, 06 Dec 2006 21:43:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=101#comment-497 Good post, but one that I feel can be potentially misleading if read the wrong way. I can see where you're coming from if you use the term "qualification" to mean something like "I like girls who can cook, can you cook" or "You look like an adventurous girl" etc. I can see how that is an attempt to use qualification as a way to build attraction by getting her to chase you. I totally agree with you that using qualification in such a way is counter-productive in the long term. However, if you look at qualification as a way to reward a certain way that she already is, then you are showing a genuine appreciation of the way she is. In that way, qualification increases attraction by showing that you see into her more deeply than anyone else. Eg if she works with kids, you can say how much you love how she has such a giving and nurturing nature. Good post, but one that I feel can be potentially misleading if read the wrong way. I can see where you’re coming from if you use the term “qualification” to mean something like “I like girls who can cook, can you cook” or “You look like an adventurous girl” etc. I can see how that is an attempt to use qualification as a way to build attraction by getting her to chase you. I totally agree with you that using qualification in such a way is counter-productive in the long term. However, if you look at qualification as a way to reward a certain way that she already is, then you are showing a genuine appreciation of the way she is. In that way, qualification increases attraction by showing that you see into her more deeply than anyone else. Eg if she works with kids, you can say how much you love how she has such a giving and nurturing nature.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.charismatips.com/the-art-of-not-qualifying/comment-page-1/#comment-498 Anonymous Wed, 06 Dec 2006 11:59:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=101#comment-498 I kept on reading and reading this today, and i realized this is indeed one of the greatest posts you've ever done. Thanks a lot for this Dan! Pieter I kept on reading and reading this today, and i realized this is indeed one of the greatest posts you’ve ever done. Thanks a lot for this Dan! Pieter

]]> By: So Money http://www.charismatips.com/the-art-of-not-qualifying/comment-page-1/#comment-499 So Money Mon, 04 Sep 2006 23:02:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=101#comment-499 hey man,<BR/><BR/>Left you a reply on the forum. I think my problem is I have what I believe as "the method" set in stone in my head from what I learned at the seminar and from Wayne's material. I need to remember that the method isn't set in stone, it's a process that can evolve over time.<BR/><BR/>Talk to you later hey man,

Left you a reply on the forum. I think my problem is I have what I believe as “the method” set in stone in my head from what I learned at the seminar and from Wayne’s material. I need to remember that the method isn’t set in stone, it’s a process that can evolve over time.

Talk to you later

]]> By: mybirthdaypony http://www.charismatips.com/the-art-of-not-qualifying/comment-page-1/#comment-500 mybirthdaypony Sun, 03 Sep 2006 05:51:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=101#comment-500 this is one of my favorite posts that you have posted. i like you. this is one of my favorite posts that you have posted. i like you.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.charismatips.com/the-art-of-not-qualifying/comment-page-1/#comment-501 Anonymous Sun, 03 Sep 2006 05:51:00 +0000 http://www.charismatips.com/?p=101#comment-501 Yeah, it seems it was old skool JM which did that setting the behaviours you want from her thing. It's clever, but I'll trust you on it not being as good as it seems. The Swinggcat kiss close where you corner her into 'being adventerous', is very clever, but has failed too.<BR/><BR/>I think very very few people have actually tried out Juggler's committment tatic, your becoming like some mad social experimenter dude, be careful you don't go punching in any doors.<BR/>xxx Goose Yeah, it seems it was old skool JM which did that setting the behaviours you want from her thing. It’s clever, but I’ll trust you on it not being as good as it seems. The Swinggcat kiss close where you corner her into ‘being adventerous’, is very clever, but has failed too.

I think very very few people have actually tried out Juggler’s committment tatic, your becoming like some mad social experimenter dude, be careful you don’t go punching in any doors.
xxx Goose

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