“I don’t want to bother them, they look like they would rather not be interrupted.” How many times have you found yourself telling yourself that? I hear it every weekend. In bars and out in the day time why are we just so damn polite in not wanting to interrupt someone? It is because it is the ultimate excuse and the gateway to a huge limiting belief.
At night in a bar two friends are in a conversation and my client asks me if he should just interrupt, and isn’t that rude? I tell him if they didn’t want to be interrupted they would not have come to a busy bar dressed very attractively; they would be home now in their PJ’s in front of the TV with a couple fruity margaritas. People come to a bar to be in a social environment. That is why it is so easy to just come up to people and say hi to them. Don’t worry about interrupting them, if they are bothered they will tell you to go away.
In the daytime things are a bit different, however you should still approach and interrupt them if needed. The fact is that in a city if I go out I expect to have random exchanges with strangers. I will guaranteed talk to strangers asking for the time or directions, having to say excuse me or even be chatted up by just some friendly stranger. Oh wait, that is my role; I am supposed to be that friendly stranger.
“No woman wakes up and says I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today!” A famous quote from a popular movie, but it’s true. If you knew that today one of the women you meet will become the love of your life would you let a little thing like the worry of interrupting someone stop you from meeting her? Approaching and it not going anywhere feels a lot better than wondering what could have been if you had approached.
The other thing that should give you comfort is in the day time people have at their disposal a million excuses to get out of talking to you. If they are still talking then it is their choice to be talking to you, don’t forget that.
The fear of interrupting people is the ultimate excuse. Don’t let it become your limiting belief and keep you from connecting with people everywhere you go.
