Comments on: You can be successful with women and be a nice guy!

By: FreeOnlineDating

FreeOnlineDating — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 19:44:48 +0000

Confidence, assertiveness and choice. Great advice for everyone. This would work especially well when going in for a job interview I’m sure too.

This is a great article, I’d never heard of PUAs before.

By: Kurt

Kurt — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 01:46:42 +0000

Nice post, Dan. But I have to admit I was even more impressed by the post you linked to above. Wow, that was a withering demolition of the ways that guys use to tell themselves their insecurity and neediness are really signs of affection and virtue. I’ve had exactly the thoughts she talks about, so I know she’s dead on.

But I wonder if the author realizes that it’s not only guys who do this. I’ve observed women lavish praise, attention and \mothering\ behavior on guys in an attempt to gain their affection. One woman I know gave a guy she had a crush on a $1000 loan! Women need to understand they also fall for this \nice-with-an-agenda\ behavior. I sometimes think that’s why women are told to play \hard to get\: because women have learned that it usually doesn’t work to win a man’s heart using smothering attention and favors.

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By: Christen Dybenko

Christen Dybenko — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 05:45:07 +0000

Confidence, assertiveness and choice. Great advice for everyone. This would work especially well when going in for a job interview I'm sure too. This is a great article, I'd never heard of PUAs before. Christen Dybenko’s last blog post..4 WordPress Plugins that increased my PageRank

By: Will

Will — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 17:58:34 +0000

It all really depends on how you define a “nice guy.” Being caring and supportive is to me, just a part of the relationship. Now, if you think about the level of care and support – this is where it really kicks in.

It’s okay to give a girl flowers, especially if you are awarding her for something wonderful she had done. But it’s not okay to have flowers sent to her office every day and buy chocolates for her every Tuesday afternoon for no reason whatsoever.

Calibration, as always – is the key here.

Great write-up Dan. Hope this motivates all the new PUA’s who think twice about treating their women to the good life.

By: Dan M

Dan M — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 02:26:42 +0000

http://www.heartless-bitc...s/niceguys/niceguys.shtml

Another great post on nice guys.. Like she says, it’s not the \nice\ part it’s the insecure part.

By: Seth Champi

Seth Champi — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 02:10:04 +0000

The second I am ready for a real relationship I will come back and re-read that article!!! Seth Champi’s last blog post..Pittsburgh makes quadrennial statement:: "We are not in running for Olympic games"

By: Nathan McGee

Nathan McGee — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 01:48:57 +0000

The old saying that “nice guys finish last” holds true when the “nice guy” is the person who will allow others to walk all over him/her. I think that you hit it on the head that a man who is confident and assertive can still be nice and will have more options open up to him, giving him more choices!

Great advice that can be incorporated outside of dating and relationships as well!

Thanks,
@nathanmcgee

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By: Sara LeeAnn

Sara LeeAnn — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 01:02:04 +0000

Finally, some hope for the nice guy! (Or the nice girl, for that matter.) I couldn't agree more: To focus first on who YOU are, what makes YOU tick, then to go after it with all the fire in your soul does indeed attract the attention of others - most often the very people you were trying so hard to get noticed by in the first place. Advice so simple, yet so profound. Well done! Sara LeeAnn’s last blog post..Diary of an Antique Store Junkie